When ever we talk about relationship, or you’re heading for your golden wedding anniversary, there are some essential elements that help to keep a relationship strong.
According to relationship counselor “falling in love is easy”, it’s maintaining the love for long time that takes effort.
“Just like maintenance on your house or maintenance on your car, love needs maintenance and nurturing to keep it going. It is absolutely normal for the ‘honeymoon’ feeling to fade. But it doesn’t mean that you’ve fallen out of love, or that you have decided to spend your life with the wrong person.”
Here are top elements of a strong relationship:
It is essential being able to trust your partner . It’s not just about trusting them not to cheat on you, it’s about trusting them to do the things they’ve promised to do. This includes hanging up the washing, fetching the kids from school etc. Knowing that they’ve got your back no matter what, and that they’re there to help with the small things as well as the big things is key to a successful relationship.
Partners need to communicate more. Communication breakdown is one of the major reasons for relationship breakdown. Couples eventually get so tired of ‘fighting’ or ‘nagging’ that they just stop communicating altogether. In my practice, couples often have to learn the skill of communication. They need to learn how to talk to each other effectively, and they also need to learn how to listen. Communication is not just about voicing your own opinion, but listening to your partner’s opinion too.
Every relationship has ups and downs. Couples need to be able to look back on situations and laugh at them. They also need to learn how to take themselves less seriously.
Laughing together – even at the silliest things – can really boost the emotional intimacy between a couple. When last did you and your partner laugh together? If you feel like you’re missing a little bit of fun in your relationship, why not rent a comedy that you both find hilarious for your next date night? Or watch some YouTube ‘fail’ videos together.
A successful relationship cannot rely on only one person’s efforts. Both partners in the relationship need to share the everyday responsibilities of life. Whether it’s taking the kids to school, grocery shopping or planning the monthly budget, these ‘unsexy’ tasks aren’t usually the things that couples day-dream about when they’re dating. But they become a part of everyday reality, and sharing the tasks between you will help decrease the strain on both parties and build a successful relationship.
Some getaway time without business or children
Sometimes you just need to get away from it all. Time to reconnect as a couple, just the two of you. Leave your distractions behind, and focus on each other. Dream together, enjoy some leisure time together.
Go on a hike, or if you’re on a tight budget, spend the weekend at home catching up on the latest series while granny babysits the kids. Just make sure that the time you spend together is quality time.